A close friend was in the vehicle. He couldn’t find me after the crash. He ran about, spun on his heels, but he couldn’t see me. What he could see was a house. He ran there to get help. Someone was home and they phoned 911,

It was a small town, so I imagine you could hear the sirens almost immediately.

Someone, I’m not sure whom, found me in a ditch some 30 feet away from the upside down vehicle. The paramedics began assessment, then treatment and moved me from the site to a gurney to the ambulance and then to the small local hospital where the team identified that my injuries were beyond their ability to treat in that facility. Another, or the same, ambulance took me to a better equipped hospital in a nearby city. There, a bevy of doctors and nurses and orderlies looked after me, staying close by my side to make sure I remained alive.

My family came as quickly as possible from a province away. They remained there for a week until my condition stabilized and I was transferred to a yet bigger hospital in my home town.

My mother said the stream of friends through that hospital room was endless. People she’d never met showed up and tried to make me laugh. Ron came every day.

During my stay in four different hospitals over a four years period, a cluster of professionals, friends and family supported me. They drove me places, took me with them, fed me, clothed me, helped me walk and learn speak and write, patted my back, and gave me hope.

Why am I telling this story? Simple.

You can’t do it alone.

Accept advice. Accept support. Ask for help. Ask for help. Ask for help. People want to help. They will do whatever they can to help.

You are not alone.

So tell me … who will you ask for help today?


In the spring of 1990 Allan Boss was in a motor vehicle accident. He suffered a severe traumatic brain injury. The attending neurosurgeon informed his family that he would never walk again or talk again. He recovered and finished three university degrees (including a Ph.D.), has written/edited four published books, completed four marathons and his CBC Ideas program “Updrafts” about recovering from brain injury won nominations for multiple international awards including the Peabody and the Prix Italia. He is currently writing a non-fiction book about his recovery.

Want to learn more? Email  with the subject Send Me the Free Outline to his book, The Seven Steps to Healing your Brain.

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